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My Husband Has Erectile Dysfunction and Won’t Touch Me

By August 3, 2021No Comments

What are erection problems?

Erectile Dysfunction (ED) refers to the inability to sustain and gain an erection that is strong enough for a man to penetrate during sexual activity. ED can be caused by a wide variety of issues including a restriction in blood flow to penile tissues, hormonal imbalances, and psychological problems such as depression and anxiety.

“My husband has Erectile Dysfunction and won’t touch me.”

Men often feel frustrated about the inability to achieve an erections., and it can be very demasculinizing. A husband may feel his inability to perform successfully means he is less manly or somehow flawed.

External pressures can also lead to Erectile Dysfunction. Most of our patients have said that they don’t want to initiate sexual activity with their partners if they have difficulty getting an erection because they are afraid they won’t be able to follow through.

Talking to your partner about Erectile problems

Erection problems are a complicated issue for couples to discuss. However, talking about it openly can often be the best way to resolve stress and identify root causes. If a man cannot get hard, it is best to talk about it with his spouse instead of pretending to be normal or avoiding sex.

The best way to maintain a healthy relationship is to recognize and accept that life will not always be perfect. Building strong and open communication between spouses will lead to a more intimate relationship in the long run. 

Changing your lifestyle

Lifestyle changes are the first route to take when trying to reverse ED.  Healthy changes  may include giving up smoking, eating a healthier diet, reducing stress levels, and exercising more. Spending a significant amount of time doing things besides working is great for reducing stress.  Hobbies, exercise, and playing with pets and kids are great activities for overall health.


Is it Erectile Dysfunction or is he not attracted to me?

If your husband is struggling with erection problems that act as a barrier in your relationship, consider consulting a psychosexual therapist. A good therapist  will help  the root causes of the problem. He or she will provide a health check to uncover any ED-causing health issues such as heart disease and diabetes. 


Erectile Dysfunction is a lot more than a physical problem. It deeply deeply effects a man’s psychology as well. Getting rid of the anxiety and stress associated with ED can help tremendously in allowing a man to achieve a normal erection. Anxiety, depression, relationship conflicts, stress at home or work due to demanding work routines, pressure caused by social, cultural, or religious conflicts, and worry about sex performance can add to it.


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